& three is a party

On my first week off in a whole real while, my best friend came to stay at my house.  My nanny family was vacationing in the Dominican Republic and I was ready to have a staycation.  I went upstate to visit my family for a day and then Olive came back with me which felt so good cause it was like bringing a piece of my hometown back to my home.

We slept in, we drank excessive amounts of coffee, we watched Yummy Mummys (terrible but entertaining tv) and the Umbrella Academy (good tv) and also I used my prized possession, my blender and made margaritas and we got drunk in my living room.  Being young and extra as we are we got dressed up and put on heels and we danced our very uncoordinated hearts out in my living room to salsa that blared from the google home.  It was delicious innocent fun.  For a moment there we even flirted with the idea of leaving the house but that is not really our style (mi novio, Olive and I have hermit tendencies and we had everything we needed in the house anyway).

It was so much fun and I even danced even though I can not dance and know so very well.  I was the perfect level of drunk and I felt good the next morning.  When I get drunk I get hyper and then I get sleepy so after we stopped dancing we started watching Yummy Mummies again and I left to change out of my itchy Fashion Nova evening gown into PJ’s and just accidentally stripped down to my underwear and fell asleep in my bed leaving Olivia and mi novio to Yummy Mummies lol.  Anyways here are three photos from that night that I love and adore.  And I hope you have a three-person party soon.  It’s fun, it’s cheap, it’s safe, it’s easy and you can play whatever damn music you’d like.  10/10 would recommend

 

 

Trying to be good at being an adult

Right now the cafe I’m in is playing the full Mamma Mia soundtrack and wow i am not ready for all that at 10am.  I am already having a hard day.  It’s my nanny boss’s birthday and so I’m working from 12pm to 10pm and I woke up exhausted so it’s gonna be a rough one.  I woke up an hour before I had to go (this is a win because lately I’ve been waking up at 10:25 am when I’m supposed to leave at 10:30 am).  I made my self coffee which I took one sip of and gagged.  I managed to put on mascara and blush and brush my teeth and I felt proud that I had the effort for that.

For me so far 2019 is about trying to stay sane and working hard.  Also a bit more adulting.  I’ve stopped treating myself to anything and everything I want (last night I wanted pizza so badly and I resisted).  Tomorrow I’m having my friends over for dinner.  We are making comfort food and I still don’t know what I’m making and my home is still a mess.  Nick is going to make his corn casserole and I think I’m gonna make I’m excited because I love having my people over in my home and lighting candles and cleaning surfaces and all the cute preparation stuff. I hope that when I’m a mom that our house is the cool house that all my kid’s friends hang out at.

 

Birthday Things

I am still not over my birthday cause 1) I low key love attention and 2) cause I felt so so loved.  My mom gave me this beautifully decorated cigar box which and the presents in it were a swiss army (which can do anything and save your life basically) and a beautiful blue crystal necklace and matching bracelet.  My sister Frida wrapped everything perfectly in beautiful wrapping paper… I am actually in awe of her wrapping skills.   Every year for at least 7 years we go to the same Chinese food buffet in Kingston, NY and we feast (this time I made it to 3 plates) and it’s an amazing amount of food and so satisfying.  It’s one of my favorite and the most sacred traditions I have. I open presents and my family sings to me (embarrassingly in both English and Spanish).  Every year my friends and I take a photo in the bathroom (again embarrassing) and it’s so crazy to look back on these photos for posterity.  The friend group has changed grown smaller cause I’ve stopped being friends with some and also cause some of my dearest friends have moved away and started my life.  Two of my best friends were unable to make it this time, Hali goes to RISD and lives in Providence and Olivia lives in a tent in California where she works on a farm.  As I’ve grown older though, I think I’ve gotten smarter about who I choose to spend my life with and I’m very proud to be associated with the people I call best friends.  They inspire me every day.IMG_1676IMG_1645

Your work place is not your family.

This is my jam.  I had a job where people called each other family and it turned out to be the most toxic place.  So much drama, and people thinking they had people who were “loyal” to each other and of course no one was.  I used to talk to 10+ people from there and think they were my friends and I literally only talk to one regularly now that I’m not there every day. My bossed used that phrase “we’re a family here” etc. as a sort of unwritten contract for us to work crazy hard for her all the time for less than we deserve.  Here is the New York Times article about it.

graduation weekend

I went to my sister and Olivia’s graduation last weekend. It was a joy for me to be back in my home town this time cause I got to have 2 girls nights with all my way friends and it was long over due. We stayed at our family friends empty and beautiful upstate ny home drank some mikes hard lemonade (my 1st time lol) and Coronas w my dad and talked about life with all my girls and my dad and it warmed my whole soul. My sister in typical Clara fashion had her graduation dinner at a vegan place and honest I’ve stopped complaining cause they have this porta bello mushroom i love and a nice garden patio to eat in outside (it’s so lovely it’s even worth giving the mosquitos a meal while I eat). My grandpa and his girlfriend came and I told Tiana that he lives in Italy during the winter and he invited us and now Tiana is set on going for her birthday which honestly I’m not against at all. My mom gave me a gold charm bracelet with the year I graduated engraved on it when I graduated but mine broke so she got it fixed and engraved my name on the back and Clara got a matching one which is really sweet.